DEVELOPING YOUR SOCIAL
Different individuals require different social skills.
The response of each individual to a certain situation varies
greatly. Review your social skills and weaknesses, and improve on
those deficiencies that you think are causing your depression.
Instinctively, having social skills ought to help with sadness,
low self-esteem, and indifference to life. Improved communication
skills and counseling should also help with relationship
Social skill training improves your ability in meeting people,
talking, sharing life experiences and stories, selecting a friend
or partner, and having a good time.
Social skills don't come naturally to everybody; many of us have
to learn and practice good communication skills. Some
individuals are meticulous in choosing the people they interact
with. It has been discovered that having good support and
close contact with family and friends is beneficial in honing
your social skills.
Sometimes, a person’s naturally-possessed attitude may be
contrary to everyone else’s desires or moral standards. The
inability to cope with the behavior of others can lead to
Read Michelle’s Story:
“My co-workers in the office would always go out
after work to play sports or to watch a movie, but I never wanted
to do those things.
All I want to do is just read my novels about
So every time they go out, I would go to the
comfort room and hide away from them so they wouldn’t invite me
As time goes on, even though they know I’m in my
cubicle, they would just pass me by.
They wouldn’t invite me anymore, which is what I
want. But somehow I feel awful.
Because in a sense, I don’t want to be left out. I
feel like I have no friends and that no one would like to talk to
Every time they rave about how exciting their game
was or how nice the movie was, I just cringe in my chair because I
feel awkwardly out of place.
I feel really, really
Does this scene look somewhat familiar? Have you ever been
in a similar situation?
Michelle, your depression can be solved by doing any of the
• Find co-workers who have similar interests. Birds
of the same feather flock together. People are genuinely
interested on other people who have the same likes and dislikes as
• Ask one of the co-workers (that you’re hiding from) if
you can join with them in their sports or movie escapade.
Hey, if you can’t beat them, join them. Who knows, you might
not know all along that you are destined to be a great
athlete. Just give it a try.
• Find a common link. There must be something that
both of you are in agreement with. If your co-worker
does charity work and you are also thinking of becoming a
volunteer, then by all means go ahead. It will establish a
closer bond between the two of you amidst being incompatible in
many other ways.
Having good social skills is an important factor in eliminating
depression. In this case, being assertive is crucial.
Assertiveness is definitely different from fighting or quarreling.
It involves expressing inner feelings emotions, like personal needs
and positive feelings.
Knowledge and application of good communication skills, fair
fighting, quick conflict resolutions, and self-expression could
result to much better relationships. Develop your bond and
closeness by constant sharing of life experiences, opinions,
feelings, and ambitions.
This could positively
affect your viewpoint in life!